My Dear Kat,
Last night we came together late and just hung out, did the crossword, talked. We both said how delightfully cosy it was, and so the question arises again, how do we do this? The scientist would say that we each adjust our expectations and behavior to synchronise with the other, but look as I may, that is not what I see, for if that were the case, I would expect to see compromise, trade-offs, weighing the pros and cons. I don’t. Instead, I see a process that is non-verbal, that I don’t “make decisions”, but instead, the activities “come to me”. But it does feel intentional on another level. It feels as though we eschew words and thoughts and planning and allow some natural balance to take place. It is like trusting the us and not letting “words with charge”, to use your memorable phrase, take over.
The result is a feeling of incredible lightness, airiness, freedom, liberty.
Many years ago I had the opportunity to ride rear-seat on a tandem. I was used to steering on a bike, and I jerked the handlebars so fiercely that the forward rider could not keep the machine in balance. Neither of us are doing that now.
Kit.
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