My Dear Kat,
I struggled to post tonight. I didn’t want to just reiterate what we have been saying about agreement and balance because I felt the words would not differ enough to be useful.
This led me to thinking about language, and so I finally pulled out the metaphors we have used in this blog.
Thumbtacks
Imagine being barefoot in a room with thumb-tacks on the floor. Even a few will inhibit your ability to dance, but once you find the room to be free of them, no limits apply.
Riding a bicycle
But how we do this is hard to pin down. Maybe it’s like riding a bicycle. At first, you fall over all the time; later, staying balanced becomes second nature.
The present is the path
And yet “do” is almost the wrong term, because there is no sense of effort; things happen effortlessly, again and again and again. It is as if there is a path through life called the present that is clear and easy to walk. To left and right, the past and the future have barbs, snares, pits of tar, that make progress so much more difficult.
On a leash
A partner who is only ninety-something percent accepting gives the feeling of being on a leash; you can run free most places, but at some point, a violent tug will occur, so the response is to run cautiously, or not at all. But at 100%, a transforming quality occurs.
Riding in tandem
Many years ago I had the opportunity to ride rear-seat on a tandem. I was used to steering on a bike, and I jerked the handlebars so fiercely that the forward rider could not keep the machine in balance. Neither of us are doing that now.
Books and pages
…a book with pages; we think we are individual pages, but we are connected together in ways that are not seen by inspecting an individual page.
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