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Jul 11

Demands

My Dear Kat,

Let me start this dialog by discussing a principal that is completely clear to us: to make no demands upon the other. That’s none, nil, nada, zilch.

I’ve spent years with the bathroom half-renovated? You keep checking email when coffee is ready? He leaves his clothes lying around? Who are you to control his habits? She takes 20 minutes to put on make-up? That’s just what she needs to feel comfortable.

With you, the experience of being able to act without engendering your approval or disapproval leads to an extraordinary freedom that I have never experienced before in a relationship: the possibility of being myself. Furthermore, it is cumulative; the longer we are together, the more assured we are of this, and the more we are each able to express ourselves.

I want to make it completely clear to our readers that this is not some abstract goal, such that 80% or 90% or 95% is “good enough”. Imagine being barefoot in a room with thumb-tacks on the floor. Even a few will inhibit your ability to dance, but once you find the room to be free of them, no limits apply. And so with us, I find that you add to me; I can be myself, and you make room for me to be more. I am so grateful for your amazing and uncommon skill.

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Jul 10

A Joint Narrative

Union by kk No Comments »

“How can I speak of this?” he said as they blissed out together. The sense of contact of their bodies together was so real that no answer was needed; the body sang its mute “Yes”. And such a pairing made the minds meld, to such an extent that she couldn’t, for a moment, quite grasp who had started this narrative, but her leg rubbed against his cock and she thrilled to the feel, to the familiarity, to the heat as I sat in bed and composed this open letter to you, my dearest, to say “Let us write a tale together, and tell of this sense of the other, and let us intertwine and edit each other’s words and thoughts into a thread that lets, encourages, even makes a reader flip between identities, so they blur into a sense of jointness, and the union of the two becomes the authentic voice of the narrative.”

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Jul 04