kitandkat.com

Its been years and we still walk along holding hands. I love the way I find my face lighting up when I see you in the evening. We’ve been through a lot together already;  illness and health issues, death in the family, marriage,  travel, deep recession, working together and apart, living in two houses and in one,  and so many other of life’s challenges. We have never had an argument or a conflict. We talk all the time. We are intensely connected lovers and experience the joys of union getting better all the time. Each of us feels supported and appreciated and free to be our total natural selves. There is sweetness and joy and an abiding sense of peace. Your mind challenges and stimulates my mind. We grow as a couple and as individuals. We don’t feel separated from each other when we are not physically together. We are both completely present with each other. I know when I encounter you, you will be you and not some stranger masquerading in your body. I know you will be completely available and that you do this with pleasure. We do not try to change each other. We support each other in all ways. Being together is always new, different and better than ever.

Having given peace a chance, we have discovered that it is a supreme and extraordinary experience. Can we share this with others? It feels like we need to give back to others this great blessing we have received. I know that for us this has not been a process. This has not felt like work, although it is certainly an active state that each of us maintains. This has been an almost immediate reframing, a transformation. Perhaps we can describe it well enough that readers or listeners will be able to ‘get’ it, be able to find their own version of what we speak of.

Before we talk of the details of our experience, we should share our core values. Most of what we do follows from our shared core values.

Digg this

According to my world clock on my IPhone, it is 4:01 PM in London, and as you were leaving by noon, you are perhaps in London by now. You may even decide to go to a computer and you may think to look at Kit and Kat! If so, hi there lover!!

I have finally reached Sunday morning and plan to stay in all day without leaving except for a small foray around 2:00. I plan to write  more here and to list tons of things on eBay. I’ve had a number of Listomax inquiries that I’ve handled but a few I wasn’t sure what to do with. I stalled until Tuesday when you can help.

Its been sunny, windy and cold. Of course nothing like the cold you are probably experiencing. We are indeed blessed here in SB. Still, London must be great fun and I’m enjoying thinking of you there, out on the town.

Kat loves Kit!

Digg this

As we have been talking and thinking about how to share this experience with others, we seem to have come up with a three part concept;

the intro, with a flavor of the kind of relating we are sharing and promoting,

then core values and what they are for us

and in the third part, the review of the main themes we have discovered by writing our blog and synthesizing those writings into related areas.

I was sharing about our project the other day and used the expression ‘passionate peace’ to describe our togetherness. This met with a lot of enthusiasm, so I have been thinking that it might be a good descriptor.

Whenever we talk about our lack of conflict, I always feel compelled to add that we are passionate. This is because I have so often encountered people equating discord, anger or tension as being necessary to feeling strongly and being engaged, and peace with a kind of neutral blah kind of  energy.

Perhaps ‘passionate peace’ is a way to speak of this without lots of words.

So,  in the beginning there was passionate peace. And this brought a wonderful state of being. There were no angles or sharp corners. There was the ease and comfort that comes of knowing you are not going to be attacked. You are not going to be preconceived or rearranged. Gentle joy pervades your day. Your person, and the special nature of your person  is not only respected but celebrated! You are free to be a complete and separate person, while at the same time enjoying a most intense experience of union. When you come together with your partner it is always new, always unique. The time together is full and creative and is always better than ever. This  seems impossible and yet it is so. When you come back together with your partner after a day apart, they are the same person you left hours ago. They are still fully present and available. They haven’t turned into a one-eyed monster or a complete stranger. There is great constancy and a deep abiding sense of well being.

You ask if this is possible. Is this just some unrealistic dream? Is this just some saccharine sweet fantasy? Not for us. We are living this wonderful relationship. We think many relationships in the world could be like ours, full of peace and joy. It is not really a process or something that you have to work on. Its a way of being.  So come join us on our journey into passionate peace.

Digg this

Good morning sweetie. I hope you are doing well with the time travel experience. It was quite strange to sleep here last night! Strange, but also good. I woke up quite early and have been eBaying a bit before I go to Katie’s.

And then, a day and a half without leaving the house. That should be amazing!

Kat loves Kit!

Digg this

Hi my darling,

I thought I could use this method to communicate with you while your in England. I hope mom had a good birthday and you are settled and enjoying your sisters. I wish I could hold you to me and plant some sweet kisses on your lovely lips, etc!

Today was pretty broken up with traveling and clients, but after I finish Katie tomorrow, I should have a day and half of time here in the house without much interruption and I hope to get lots of work done…hope…hope…hope!

I will be writing and blogging so check in again on Sunday before you leave for London.

How sweet it is and how grateful and thankful I am.

Know that you are cherished,

Kat

Digg this